Wednesday, February 26, 2014

14 Timeless Ways to Live a Happy Life

1. Notice What’s Right
Some of us see the glass as being half-full, while others see the glass as half-empty. The next time you are caught in traffic, begin thinking how nice it is to have a few moments to reflect on the day, focus on a problem you have been trying to solve, or brainstorm on your next big idea. The next time you get in the slow line at the grocery store, take the opportunity to pick up a tabloid magazine and do some “guilty pleasure” reading. Take all that life throws out you and reframe it with what’s right about the situation. At the end of the day, you will more content, at peace and happy. Take the time to begin to notice what’s right and see the world change in front of your eyes.
2. Be Grateful
How many times do you say the words “thank you,” in a day? How many times do you hear these same words? If you are doing the first thing, saying the “thank yous,” the latter will naturally happen. Learn to be grateful and you will be open to receive an abundance of joy and happiness.
3. Remember the Kid You Were
Do you remember how to play? I’m not referring to playing a round of golf or a set of tennis. I’m talking about playing like you did when you were a child – a game of tag; leap frog, or street baseball when the bat is a broken broom handle and the bases are the parked cars. One way to find or maintain your happiness is to remember the kid you were and play!
4. Be Kind
There is no question that by merely watching acts of kindness creates a significant elevation in our moods and increases the desire for us to perform good deeds as well. Kindness is indeed contagious and when we make a commitment to be kind to ourselves and to others we can experience new heights of joy, happiness and enthusiasm for our lives.
5. Spend Time with Your Friends
Although an abundant social and romantic life does not itself guarantee joy, it does have a huge impact on our happiness. Learn to spend time with your friends and make the friendships a priority in your life.
6. Savor Every Moment
To be in the moment is to live in the moment. Too often we are thinking ahead or looking ahead to the next event or circumstance in our lives, not appreciating the “here and now.” When we savor every moment, we are savoring the happiness in our lives.
7. Rest
There are times when we need the time to unwind, decompress, or to put it simply, just “to chill.” Life comes at all of us hard and fast. Time, as do the days on the calendar, keeps going forward at its own natural pace, which is not always the pace we would choose. Fatigue, stress and exhaustion may begin to settle in on us faster than we may think, or notice. The best remedy for this is indeed rest.
8. Move!
The expression a “runner’s high” does not infer an addiction, but a feeling or a state of mind – a state of euphoria. There is no question exercise, or any physical exertion, elevates your mood and enhances a more positive attitude as well as fosters better personal self-esteem and confidence. Indeed, one way to increase your happiness is to move!
9. Put on a Happy Face
Sometimes we have to fake it until we make it. I’m not suggesting that we not be honest, real or authentic, but I’m suggesting, sometimes, we just need to put on a happy face and keep moving forward. Researchers claim that smiling and looking like we are happy will indeed make us happier. Studies further show that if we act like we are happy then we can experience greater joy and happiness in our lives.
10. Pursue Your Goals
The absence of goals in our lives, or more specifically avoiding to pursue our goals, makes us feel like we are stuck and ineffective. The pursuit of goals in our personal lives, in our relationships, or with our careers, is the difference between having a mediocre life or a life full of passion and enthusiasm. pursue your goals and watch your happiness soar.
11. Finding Your Calling
Some find meaning in religion or spirituality while others find purpose in their work or relationships. Finding your calling may be much more than accomplishing one simple strategy for increasing your happiness, but having a sense of purpose – of feeling like you are here for a reason – can perhaps bring the greatest joy of all.
12. Get into the Flow
Flow is the form of joy, excitement and happiness that occurs when we are so absorbed in an activity we love that we can loose ourselves and time seems to stand still. What creates flow is unique to each one of us. To find and sustain true happiness in our lives, we must get off the sidelines and get into the flow.
13. Play to Your Strengths
One way to achieve flow is by understanding and identifying our strengths and core values, and then begin to use these every day. Once we aware of our strengths and we begin to play to your strengths we can better incorporate them in all aspects of our lives.
14. Don’t Overdo It
Know when to say when. What gives you joy and happiness the first time may not work the second time. Too much of a good thing may begin not to feel as good if the “thing” becomes more of a routine, or an expectation. Set healthy and reasonable boundaries for yourself and don’t overdo it.
This article was written by Alex Blackwell from http://www.thebridgemaker.com/

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Thursday, February 20, 2014

The Quest for Positive Changes.

Today I watched a thought provoking show on netflix that describes where our "supermarket foods" come from, how they are grown and how they get there. I found this very disturbing. We really have no idea how food companies produce our foods, and what they use to grow them - or at least I don't.

Today I decided I want to find out. I'm making it a new mission of mine to discover where my food comes from, and how it's made/grown.

Why would I want to eat processed or genetically modified food? I don't, but yet I eat at McDonalds sometimes. Having seen today what it's like for some animals to be in dark buildings with no light or fresh air, I feel disgusted that I would even eat an animal that came from a "plant" like this. On the flip side, I saw farmers raising animals in fields of wheat and grass, where they had room to eat, and play, and stretch out to sleep - in the sun or rain - and of course this is a life that animals should be having. Yes, I know, some people will say that who cares where they live if they are destined for slaughter? Well I do!! Who wants to eat meat from an animal that lives in 6 inches of its own feces, and has to push it's neighbor out of the way so it can do something as simple as turn around? I don't - because this means that these animals are probably being fed growth hormones so they grow faster, which costs the farmer less money. Ok, but this doesn't produce healthy meat from a healthy animal. It's quite the opposite actually. So I am further disgusted by this.

Where my fruits and vegetables come from is a whole other story. Do we ever take the time to find out which fruits and veggies are in season? Probably not. I know now that eggplant is out of season. Yet most supermarkets still stock it. So, it's been altered with chemicals so it grows off season, or it's been shipped from some other coutry and sprayed with chemicals so it lasts longer and doesn't go bad. Appealing? Not in the least. Why not just get veggies from the farmer's market (having done your research on the companies and farms of course) and get food that is in season so as not to injest all of the harmful products used to keep things longer?

This has been a very thought provoking day. I find I need days like this to help me stay positive, and have a plan for life that I can follow. 

~L~

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Saturday, February 15, 2014

Stay Positive

Good morning!

I wanted to write a little note to share one thing I have practiced for the last few days, and it has made a lovely difference in my life. I have practiced staying positive, and stopping negative thoughts from running wild in my mind.

Normally, I have negative thoughts every day, and they run wild in my head, creating all sorts of negative stories. It's not a pleasant experience. Making an effort to stop these thoughts when they pop into my head stops them from being able to take control of my day, and it really is a wonderful thing.

I started reading a book called Paving It Forward by Elisabeth Fayt. She talks about creating positive statements that are actions or beliefs, which become methods of conscious creation. This tells the universe what you want, and helps you shape and mold your life to be positive and fulfilling.

Give it a try for a few days, try to stay positive, and when you have a negative thought, replace it with a positive one. Let me know how it goes for you! I would love to hear your feedback and positive experiences!!

Have a happy and balanced day!!

~L~

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Thursday, February 6, 2014

What are you Grateful for?

Life shows us so many little miracles that we overlook daily. For instance: While driving to work today I noticed the Hoar Frost on the trees, and how beautiful it was. Normally I don't get to see this because when I drive to and from work it's usually in the dark. Today I was delighted to drive during daylight, and I was very grateful to see the beautiful trees.

How many of  you stop to look at Nature daily? Perhaps it's a little family of ducklings swimming on a pond, or the crickets and frogs singing at night, or a beautiful sunset or sunrise. These things are all around us on a daily basis. Even if it's raining there could be a beautiful rainbow after....even a double rainbow. These things are spectacular and are a chance to make our life more positive and happy, if only we take some time to enjoy them.

I know some of you will say you don't have time to do this. But you do. You can look out the window while you wash dishes or brush your teeth. You can enjoy the sounds of nature while walking outside, even if only to and from your vehicle at home, or going to the grocery store. You can watch the sun rise while driving to work.......We all have the time to make life better and enjoy Nature........

Take the time today to be Mindful and enjoy the beauty that surrounds you in life, it's worth noticing.
Let it bring you Inner Peace.

Have a Beautiful day :)

~L~

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Saturday, February 1, 2014

Make Happiness a habit

"HAPPINESS IS A HABIT - CULTIVATE IT." 
Very wise words from Elbert Hubbard.

I have a notepad on my fridge that has this quote on it. Every time I read it it inspires me.
This morning I look at my life, and what happiness means to me. I look at how I interact with other people, and how this affects my happiness. For me personally, my relationships with other people affect my happiness quite a bit. I've made a new friend recently. She's a nice person, although she seems quite negative and pushy. This has affected me for a few weeks now and I finally see it. Having this relationship affect me has affected my relationships with other people as well - it's a vicious circle. 

How do your relationships with other people affect you? Comment and let me know. 

Have any of your noticed that technology affects relationships as well? When we communicate over text message or email (or anything similar), sometimes it's really easy to misunderstand what the other person is saying, because the tone of voice is missing. Also we can't hear a laugh through a text message, or an angry tone. So, sometimes meanings are misunderstood, and we react based on what we understand which isn't always accurate. This reaction causes further issues, and the whole thing ends up being a miscommunication. How can you avoid this? Perhaps make you are very clear in your message, or just avoid the message all together and speak in person or over the phone. 

How do you think this type of situation could be better handled?

One thing that I have done that has helped me make my day better is to be mindful, and aware of how I'm acting. Also, making a phrase, like a motto, that I can say to myself when I feel myself getting angry or sad has been helpful to pull me out of those situations. My motto is this:
"I'm going to have a peaceful and happy day."

Here's to having a good day.

~L~

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